Tuesday, June 28, 2011
The kids and chores.
My kids don't do chores. They do help around here if I tell them to but they don't have specific daily chores. I think they should. I even make plans to make it happen. I have done all kinds of simple charts, complicated charts, colorful charts, re-writable charts, permanent charts.
I worry all the time about what that is teaching them. They can't go about the rest of their lives only doing something if they are asked ignoring the daily stuff that needs to be done. That is always my focus. Not now but the rest of lives.
I don't know if I should make ANOTHER chore list. We really do have to do something. Summer is here and Timothy was on the xbox at 8:30. Caitie is laying in front of the TV. They would both stay there all day if I let them. Not just one day. We all need an occasional down day. But we aren't talking occasionally, they would do this everyday all day if I let them. That just isn't going to work.
Our biggest problem is that I make the plan and then I forget to remind them. I can make a new plan. I like making new plans. But making a plan isn't the issue. I am not good at making them do it. Maybe I need to buy a t-shirt that says "THE ENFORCER" and wear it everyday. The one time I did good with the routine was after Timothy told me the reason he didn't do his chores is because I didn't "enforce" the routine. I got mad and then I made it my mission to make sure he did his stuff every single day. It worked. Until I forgot again.
I thought that eventually they would get old enough that I didn't have to remind them to do their chores but instead they have just gotten old enough to have an attitude about doing them. Parenting isn't it fun!